Joseph Aaron Oakes was born in Los Angeles to Billy and Peggy Oakes, to join his sister Anne. Joseph spent most of his life living in Northern California and Southern Oregon with his life partner of 24 years, Sergio, who preceded Joe in his passing into grace. He now joins the Almighty, along with his grandparents, aunts and cousins who have passed before him.
Joe was an “old spirit” who loved 1930s to ’60s music, films and swing dance. He loved playing organ was well skilled in gardening, antiques and their restoration, and cooking. He found solace in fishing, clamming and crabbing and things water related. He lived life large, often with flamboyant style, and had a brilliant wit.
He is survived by parents Billy and Trish Oakes, of Salyer, Peggy Putnam, of Portland, sisters Anne and Sara, and brother McKenzie. He is greatly missed by all.
No services are planned at this time. Think of Joseph and smile. He is with good company and at peace.
This article appears in Ghosts on the Tracks.
Joe has been my best friend since we met in 1999. I had no idea he passed until today. I’ve been trying to call him, now I know why he wasn’t answering. My condolences to his family. He was a wonderful crazy guy. I’ll miss him forever. RIP Joe Joe
We spent two decades texting and chatting with jokes, laughter and story time. We talked one another through loss, change and grief. Joe was a walking encyclopedia of music, film and antiques. I have a wonderful antique phonograph he gave me that I will always cherish. Looking at my phone and not seeing calls or texts from him is heartbreaking. I will miss my brilliant friend.