"protecting the rights to confidentiality that have long been lobbied for by birth parents"
If birthparents are lobbying for confidentiality please explain the following quote in this pro-adoption article:
"Some people aren't comfortable having ongoing contact with the birth parents, and 99 percent of [domestic] birth parents today want that."
So is it 1% of birth parents who are demanding confidentiality? Or is it the adoption industry?
Dear Victoria -
We do realize that you, as an Adoption Worker are prohibited by law from giving adoptees their own original birth certificates. But if, as you profess, it is in the best interest of the adopted "child" to know as much as possible about his or her original family - then you might want to join us in CHANGING those laws that are so damaging to the very people you want to help.
I think it's great adoption is more open these days - but that does absolutely nothing for the MILLIONS of adoptees (now parents and grandparents) who cannot access that information because their first parents were NOT given any choice as to the openness of the adoption.
Your job is to find homes for TODAY'S children - but don't forget about YESTERDAY'S children who are now tax-paying adults and deserve unrestricted access to the unaltered records of their birth.
Mara - Once again you've exposed the industry's manipulations. Ms. Coke said she was sympathetic to your plight but spent the rest of her letter promoting adoption and ignoring adoptee rights to their own original birth records. "I feel your pain" and "thank you for opening the dialogue" are meaningless gestures.
Ms. Coke has some very serious inconsistencies in her letter. While on the one hand lauding the "paradigm shift" away from closed adoptions, she is nonetheless reluctant to allow adult adoptees to participate in the openess that is now commonplace. In her view, the openess enjoyed by today's adopted children cannot be shared with the adults and first parents who had no choice under the old closed system.
No one, it seems, is willing to right the wrongs of the past. Adoptees and their first parents are expected to be thankful that the system has changed for the better while still being subject to the old rules and admonished for trying to change them in any meaningful way.
The statement where she "balances" the alleged RIGHTS of first parents against the DESIRES of adult adoptees is right out of the Adoption Industry lobby's latest manifesto. "Birth" mothers do not lobby - the adoption industry does.
She also conveniently forgets that in both Oregon and Tennessee the courts found NO fundamental or constitutional right to privacy for "birth" parents. The right to privacy so convincingly invoked in recent memory is the right to be FREE from government interference. It is just that government interference which is keeping each and every adoptee from knowledge of their own unique heritage.
"A reasonable man adapts himself to his environment. An unreasonable man persists in attempting to adapt his environment to suit himself. Therefore, all progress depends on the unreasonable man." - George Bernard Shaw
Adoptees having passport problems just need to jump through more hoops than the non-adopted. Think of it as a poll tax on the adopted. Fair?
Keep at it Mara!
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Dec 12, 2013
vol XXIV issue 50
The North Coast Journal Weekly
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